Monday, February 4, 2019

I hope this doesn't backfire!

I don't claim to know all the details in this Supreme Court decision but my first reaction is that we see how badly the courts treat victims and how they pander to the perpetrators claiming violations of the perpetrators rights.  What about the victims rights!  In the case of domestic violence, if the perpetrator does go to prison then they receive free medical and mental health care, free education, even TV's and access to the internet while being paid to sit in jail.  While the victim has to pay for her own mental health care, has to try to find a medical doctor and pay for travel and babysitting etc., to attend an appointment, the doctors do not come to the victim.  She has to pay for her accommodations, food and cover any bills that as a family are due, if she goes to a shelter and qualifies she may get a very small daily allowance, less that a couple of bucks.  So who is being punished?  How is this equitable?  Seriously, the courts really need to think before allowing perpetrators to walk away with no ramifications for committing a crime.

Monday, January 28, 2019

Could it have been prevented?

I'd like to share a story with you. Several months ago my daughter called me while she was waiting for the police to take her statement.  Nothing like getting THAT kind of call from your daughter who is a university student living away from home.  She and a friend were walking their dogs at a dog park in Ottawa in the evening when they heard what sounded like a fight, and a female calling for help and saying "call police".  My daughter dialed 911 on her cell phone and they waited, feeling scared and helpless.  It was dark so they couldn't really see what was happening and quite frankly they were both too afraid to try to get physically involved, although they yelled that the police were called and on their way hoping that would scare the abuser. The police showed up and stopped the male who was assaulting a female. When my daughter asked the police about this incident, she was told that the two people were "regulars" often sleeping at the park and she got the impression that the police didn't seem overly concerned.  My daughter was curious as the police didn't separate the two people or even talk to the women separately, she didn't hear them offer to take the women to a domestic violence shelter or even the hospital.  Why?

Even if these two people were "regulars" and homeless, why was she, a victim not cared for. The women had her clothes partially ripped off of her and was being assaulted.  Why was she not immediately taken to a hospital or domestic violence shelter if she wasn't hurt.

Unfortunately the story didn't end there, not long ago my daughter heard that this same women was missing, so my daughter and her friends started to watch for her in the area but have not seen her. Because she has been murdered.

Another mother, daughter, sister and friend, added to the missing and murdered women list.
I can't help but wonder that if the police had taken her to a shelter perhaps this women would be alive today.  CBC

Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Domestic Violence and Politics

Once again, public figures running for positions of power in the political arena with a questionable past are in the news.  Check out CTV and CBC Winnipeg.  Like shopping, its buyer beware but it is so difficult to know what you are buying, same situation when selecting a political leader.  If they choose not to talk about a questionable past how would we ever know? 

Well, sometimes history is voiced because survivors are starting to talk about their experiences.  What many people do not understand is the courage and fortitude it takes for a survivor to speak out.  So many feelings suppressed due to societal pressure and upbringing not to mention embarrassment and or fear for themselves, children, family and pets, creates a barrier for survivors to voice their experiences. 

I want to acknowledge the survivors who are speaking out against family violence, good for you! You are my hero's.

We have much work to do to increase recognition of family violence as a crucial social issue and to create access to effective programs and services that support healing, accountability and healthy relationships.

We will continue this work.

Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Congratulations to SHADE (Safe Housing And Directed Employerment) who have received charity status. SHADE's 2nd Annual General Meeting will be held on June 7th at 5 p.m., at New Journey Housing, 200-305 Broadway (above the Starbucks) for more information email

Thursday, February 23, 2017

A Cabaret of Monologues in Steinbach

Join us for a luncheon performance compliments of Agape House in Steinbach on March 9th.
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Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Brown Bag Lectures with Dr. Judith Hughes


Brown Bag Lectures are free and open to the public. All lectures take place from 12:15 pm – 1:00 pm, in Room 252, St Paul’s College.

Dr. Judy Hughes

The presentation begins with sharing findings from a research project that documents practices provided within women’s shelters. Interviews with these workers suggest that they provide women residents time to become comfortable, empower them to set their own goals and make their own decisions, and provide environments that are non-chaotic and violence free. Through the presentation, Dr. Hughes will describe how these responses to violence suggest a deeper meaning to the perpetration of violence that is often not considered in common definitions and notions.

Visit the Facebook event for more information.

Tuesday, November 8, 2016

The Power of PJs

November is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  Help the shelters gather needed items for the women and children who are survivors of domestic violence.  Please don't forget the male teens who need adult sizes when you are shopping!